Category Archives: Child Neglect and Abuse

How we measure our love for our children

” Even bad people love their children”.

But do they? Its not so much, “are they capable of love”, as, “do they know what love is”?

It’s parallel to “what is freedom”? The ability to do whatever you want? Or the ability to do what is right?

Love is preferring the good of the other for the other’s sake.

It can be explained to a five-year-old, as simply as Rapunzel and Flynn Rider’s mutual, self-sacrificial love.


(Rapunzel is willing to remain the false-mother’s slave, to save Flynn Rider’s life. Flynn is willing to die so that Rapunzel can become free. Self-sacrificial love that perfects their romance into True Love: “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends”.)

But what about “love” for one’s children? Successfully passing the test should be, that we want better for our children than ourselves.

What if we don’t even examine ourselves, whether we really want that for our children?

How can we want better for our children, if we aren’t willing to live better ourselves?

The real marker should be, that when we have our first children, we stop all our youthful foolishness and start to live for them.

For those of us gifted with faith, the change is marked by our regularly attending church.

What Would It Take To Defund the Islamic State?

11 Year Old Child Bride Speaks Out Before Being Killed


The Grand Mufti of Saudi Arabia and the President of Indonesia are uncomfortable with their heritage as presented on videos of beheadings and child-rapes live on the world’s computer monitors. 

In the unlikely event that they were serious about their discomfort, what would it take to defund the Islamic State? 

It controls oil production facilities capable of supplying it with the equivalent of $3 million daily.  

That is a hard asset, easiest to deprive them of. 

The softer asset of the bank notes they stole might be more difficult to deprive them of. 

What currencies did they steal? 

If they were specie of major international currencies, it could be difficult. 

If they were currencies of a smaller country, might it be simply a matter of devaluing or invalidating the stolen currencies? 

Annie Lennox ‘disturbed and dismayed’ by ‘overtly sexualised’ pop performances

Singer Annie Lennox has criticised a “recent spate of overtly sexualised performances and videos”, and accused record companies of “peddling highly styled pornography with musical accompaniment”.

Annie Lennox 'disturbed and dismayed' by 'overtly sexualised' pop performances

Rihanna and Miley Cyrus performing. Photo: REX FEATURES

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1:58PM BST 06 Oct 2013

The former Eurythmics singer’s attack comes as the row into the role of women in pop grows following a series of risque performances by stars such as Miley Cyrus and Rihanna.

“I have to say that I’m disturbed and dismayed by the recent spate of overtly sexualised performances and videos,” Lennox wrote on her Facebook page.

“You know the ones I’m talking about. It seems obvious that certain record companies are peddling highly styled pornography with musical accompaniment.

“As if the tidal wave of sexualised imagery wasn’t already bombarding impressionable young girls enough.”

Yelling at Kids as bad or worse than Hitting

Psychological Abuse Can Scar Children, Says AAP


For Release:  July 30, 2012

Although there may not be bruises or broken bones, psychological maltreatment can scar children for a lifetime and result in severe emotional distress, developmental problems and disruptive behavior. In an updated clinical report from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), “Psychological Maltreatment,” in the August 2012 issue of Pediatrics (published online July 30), the AAP describes how psychological maltreatment is one of the most common forms of child abuse, but also one of the most difficult to identify and prevent. Emotional or psychological abuse is a repeated pattern of behavior by a parent or caregiver that can be verbal or nonverbal, active or passive, intentional or unintentional, but is interpreted negatively by a child, and can result in developmental, social, emotional and academic problems. This form of mistreatment can occur in many types of families, but is more common in homes with multiple stresses, including family conflict, mental health issues, physical violence, depression or substance abuse. To date, not much is known about ways to intervene with parents who psychologically abuse their children, however it is hoped that health care providers can help to promote sensitive and attuned parenting using a range of approaches, such as educational strategies. If anyone suspects psychological or emotional abuse, they should contact child protective services for additional assessment and treatment.

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